An Ask for Civility: Opening of New School Year Letter

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[We sent the following letter out to the St. George’s Independent School Community this morning.  While it is relevant specifically to SGIS, I believe it also has some relevance to all schools on this eve of the 2016-2017 school year.]

Dear Families:

We are gearing up for a great year at SGIS. As I write, the new lacrosse wall is going up; teams are sweating it out on the courts, fields, and in the weight room; rewiring is complete to allow for more pottery wheels in the art room at Collierville; and teachers are making preparations for their courses. I am sitting in my Collierville campus office, having recently returned from vacation in the North Carolina mountains, and I am feeling the familiar anticipation of the first day of school. Now with a year at St. George’s under my belt, I believe more powerfully than ever that this is a special place doing important work for all the children who join us.

While this summer for the Peters family has been replete with chances to reconnect with friends and family, and we have enjoyed opportunities to spend some time on familiar ground in East Tennessee and Western North Carolina, my enjoyment of the summer has been tempered not only by tragic news in Orlando, Baton Rouge, Minneapolis, Dallas, and Nice, but also by our national struggle to remember that we share more in common than that which separates us.

As I think about the troubling momentum of our recent headlines, Psalm 133 seems relevant. Its first verse —“Behold how good and pleasant it is/for God’s people to dwell together in unity”— is particularly evocative for me as its first three words, Ecce Quam Bonum, provide the Latin motto of my undergraduate school, and it has become a habit of many of my Sewanee friends to sign cards and emails to other graduates with the letters EQB. The rest of the Psalm points out that “dwelling together in unity” places us closer to God and is indeed a gift from God.

Placed in relief by the frightening events of this summer, Psalm 133 reveals that we have a rare opportunity in this school, and rather than warn you against the dangers of squandering it, I would like for us to think about how we might strengthen the ties that bind us. I believe we can use that strength to serve and to lead students so that they might become servant leaders in communities that will always have poignant need for them.  I do not know the future, but I do know that, whatever way it tilts and spins in the days, months, and years ahead, the world will need such people as St. George’s strives to graduate (SGIS Portrait of a Graduate).  It will need them not only to meet the world’s gaze but also to engage it with strength, empathy, determination, and integrity. It will need them, not only to recognize the issues that may divide us, but also to know how to engage people who see the way forward differently than we do.

After this long preface I have an ask for all of us – teachers, parents, friends and students: make a commitment to civility and to civil discourse within our school community. Please make this commitment even as we witness its opposite day in and day out in media, in political campaigns, on athletic field sidelines, and on Facebook, Twitter, and Snapchat threads. We cannot ask young people to be civil, much less to value civility and civil dialogue if we are not able to meet the standard ourselves.

The most highly charged issues of our time are alive in the conversations our students are having with and without us every day. We know that they are watching us carefully. Interestingly, even when as parents we believe our kids are not listening to us or valuing our opinions, there is no source of insight they trust more than us. They are listening to what we say and how we say it. They are using us to formulate their opinions and to calibrate their character. They are testing boundaries in order to find the lines within which they will operate as adults. In our national dialog we are struggling to post appropriate boundary markers for young people regarding civility, so in our community, the SGIS community, we have an obligation to be counter-cultural.

Preparing students, our children, for the “real world” does not mean emulating its worst characteristics. The best preparation for young people includes setting a far higher bar so that they grow into the very people who are ready to help raise standards above the lowest common denominator. At SGIS, the call to be counter-cultural in this area is not new; however, the immediacy of its relevance has never been more clear. St. George’s has always sought to bring people together, and our three-campus model drawing from over fifty zip codes is a testament to both our faith that we can navigate the spaces that separate us and our determination that we must. I request that all members of our school community deepen our commitment to civility even as the world around us may seem determined to undermine the effort. Civility involves acts of will and thus reflects our character both as individuals and as a group.

So as we begin a new school year, one with such promise for all of us, I will strive to keep Psalm 133’s call in the front of my mind: “Behold how good and pleasant it is for God’s people to dwell together in unity.”


Ross Peters, Head of School

Standards of Conduct (according to The National Institute for Civil Discourse):

  1. Be respectful of others in speech and behavior
  2. Take responsibility for personal behavior, attitude, and actions
  3. Promote civility through everyday interactions
  4. Listen fully and attentively to the speaker, seeking to understand them
  5. Practice non-violence, using words to inspire change

Our Mission: St. George’s Independent School is an Episcopal school dedicated to the pursuit of excellence, preparing students for a life of learning and meaningful contribution in an inclusive learning community that nurtures outstanding academic achievement, relationships, leadership and character reinforced by Judeo-Christian values. 

11 thoughts on “An Ask for Civility: Opening of New School Year Letter

  1. danettemorton August 6, 2016 / 12:06 am

    Well put, Ross. Best wishes to you and the SGIS community this year!

    • J Ross Peters August 6, 2016 / 12:40 pm

      Thanks so much for this, Danette. I hope all is well at Westminster and with all Mortons!

  2. georgelamplugh August 6, 2016 / 11:08 am

    A very important, timely message, Ross, clearly delivered. Nice job!

  3. Stacie Rapson August 6, 2016 / 2:50 pm

    Thank you for this, Ross! What a great inspiration to us all as we begin a new school year. SGIS is blessed to have you at its helm! All best to you, Katie, and E.

    • J Ross Peters August 6, 2016 / 10:37 pm

      It is good to hear from you! Thanks for reading. I you all are well. All best–

  4. emtomaras August 6, 2016 / 4:36 pm

    Ross- I wanted to take a moment and express my gratitude for writing a letter of rec. for Miranda last year. The year was exciting at Westminster, with the football championship especially, but above all was Miranda’s early acceptance to Vanderbilt! We are all so thrilled for her! I know the end of year Senior activities were a hectic time, and unfortunately you and Miranda’s math teacher (Bergstedt) were not on campus to get in-person thanks from us all! We drop her off in 2 weeks.. I haven’t started on Valium yet so all is good! Ha!Again, thanks, and hope you and the family are doing well in Memphis. Elise, Chris, and Miranda Tomaras

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    From: Ross All Over the Map To: Sent: Friday, August 5, 2016 1:30 PM Subject: [New post] An Ask for Civility: Opening of New School Year Letter #yiv5495860251 a:hover {color:red;}#yiv5495860251 a {text-decoration:none;color:#0088cc;}#yiv5495860251 a.yiv5495860251primaryactionlink:link, #yiv5495860251 a.yiv5495860251primaryactionlink:visited {background-color:#2585B2;color:#fff;}#yiv5495860251 a.yiv5495860251primaryactionlink:hover, #yiv5495860251 a.yiv5495860251primaryactionlink:active {background-color:#11729E;color:#fff;}#yiv5495860251 | J Ross Peters posted: “[We sent the following letter out to the St. George’s Independent School Community this morning.  While it is relevant specifically to SGIS, I believe it also has some relevance to all schools on this eve of the 2016-2017 school year.]Dear Familie” | |

    • J Ross Peters August 6, 2016 / 10:39 pm

      Thank you for this. I am very excited for what lies ahead for Miranda. Vanderbilt is lucky to get her. All best–

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